Category: Men of God

View your marriage through the lens of eternity.

As believers, marriage must be viewed from an eternal perspective. No, marriage is not eternal, it was designed for our lives here on earth – However, marriage, when viewed through the perspective of eternal hope empowers us to see beyond momentary difficulties.

When we are able see the eternal perspective we can understand that what we are dealing with is bigger than us, but not bigger than God. We have the chance to glorify God in our marriages more than any other divine institution. The eternal perspective allows us to put aside our selfishness and egocentric mindset in lieu of honoring God by honoring our mate.


Marriage Tip of the Day: With a twist –

This tip of the day is not only to those that are married, but to those desiring to be married, as well as believers in general.

We wonder why things seem so distorted and enigmatic in today’s culture. There are women saying there are no good men and there are men who cannot decide what they should be looking for in a woman.

This happens when we conform to a secular culture in which the only Gospel that we hear consistently is that which is at the top of our playlist. Confusion with self is easily obtained when the media becomes our Bible and the scriptures we read are from secular magazines. God has been removed from the equation.

In the grand design, the Christian is to make an impact, create paradigmatic shifts in the culture that surrounds them, and take ground for the kingdom; however, believers have allowed the secular paradigms of this western culture to infiltrate our minds. We have become selfish and egocentric to the point of corporate narcissism.

Women, there are good men, but they are embedded in the trenches of Christian service, they are not in the clubs or at happy hour. Men, there are good women, but their hearts are hidden in Christ, so that nothing less than a man bearing His character can reach them.

For those of you that are already married, stop believing the cultural lie that it is about you. Stop believing the tenets of hedonism and secular humanism which tell you that you determine what is right and that your ultimate goal in this life is to accomplish happiness. My friend, it is not about you. Your marriage is an institution designed to reveal, reflect and glorify Christ. Your mate is not to be exploited, but honored. Your service is not only to your mate, but to God.

When we begin to stand out as a peculiar people, unwilling to compromise our Christian values, our ability to impact the world around us will once again be recognized. ~ Dr. Rick Wallace

Marriage Tip of the Day:

Men, be men of action. As much as your wife monitors the words you say, she is even more attentive to your actions. I was once told to always say what I mean, but more importantly do what I say. I don’t think there are too many things more disconcerting to a wife than to see her husband being praised by others because of his Godly words and presentation when she knows that it just a facade. Know that anyone that observes her will soon learn the truth because she is a reflection of you. Let your actions reflect a heart of love toward your wives.


Wives, respect your husband’s desire and need to be the “man”. We as men have an innate desire to feel needed, much in the way you desire to feel wanted. Deep inside the innermost recesses of a man is the need to be respected and needed. As the one person that knows your husbands weaknesses it is easy to find yourself complaining and murmuring, subsequently developing and ungrateful spirit. Are we perfect? Far from it. No one knows that better than a man’s wife; however, he grows and becomes more favorable to his design when you accentuate his strengths while helping him strengthen his weaknesses. Your husbands greatness is inextricably bound to your support. ~ Dr. Rick Wallace

Marriage Tip of the Day

Marriage Tip of the Day:

Husbands, as mature men of God, we must assume our roles of leadership in order to stabilize the home. No matter how much conflict is in your homes at the moment, your wives are looking to you for leadership. When I say lead, I don’t mean dominate. You lead by aligning yourself with God’s will for your life; by honoring your wife. Engage your wife with a love and gentleness, that is expressive of your faith. Let the reflection of Christ be seen by your wife first, because your wife will be the ultimate reflection of you. 1 Corinthians 11:7 says that woman is the glory of man. This means that she is his greatest accomplishment; she is the greatest reflection of who is. I once asked one of my spiritual mentors what he thought of new minister that had just joined the church. He said, “I’m not sure, I have not met his wife yet.” He told me that if you want to judge the character of a man observe the countenance of his wife. Her eyes will reflect his gentleness, and her smile will reflect his love and honor. Men, your wives are observing your every action, looking for confirmation of your love. It is your responsibility to make it easy for her to see.


Wives, your strength and fortitude is exceptional. No one has the power to affirm a man and help him to activate and actualize his potential in the manner and magnitude that his wife does. This also means she has the greatest potential to tear him down. Wives, your husbands, though they boasts a tough exterior, are extremely vulnerable to you. They thrive off of respect, adoration and reverence. They need to be affirmed and respected. When these things are absent, or worse; irreverence, disrespect, and contempt are present, it will cause your husband to shut down, become defensive and behave unloving. Behind every good man is a great woman. Why is she great? She is great because she is aware of his weaknesses, but instead of exploiting them, degrading him, and berating him, she comes along side of him and girds him. In doing this, she gives him the strength and confidence to function is his God-ordained design. Ladies, your husband needs to have the confidence that his home is his refuge. He needs the confidence to be vulnerable without being exploited and deprecated. He needs permission to be imperfect without being judged. I promise you that the benefits will be multitudinous. Proverbs 12:4 says, “An excellent (worthy, noble) wife is the crown of her husband…”. What are you?

Dr. Rick Wallace

Calling All Men

Marriage Tip of the Day:

Men, I spoke with the women on yesterday and so today I want to speak with you. As always, I do not approach you from a place of condescension, nor do I preach or teach from the platform of perfection. The words that you read and hear come from the transformed heart of a man of God that chose to surrender his cloak of selfishness, pride, and arrogance in exchange for the quiet, yet unwavering, confidence of walking in his anointed purpose.

As men, it is important that we understand that it begins with us. No matter what this secular society attempts to convince you of, you are designed to be leaders, providers, protectors, coverings for your women and so much more. You were molded in the hands of God to influence generations, forge meaningful alliances, and build lasting legacies. However, as a collective we have failed in our responsibility; we have abdicated our God-ordained roles in lieu of self.

You may be asking, what does all of this have to do with marriage? Well, in order to be Godly husbands you must first be a Godly man. A Godly man has surrendered to the will of God and he has committed himself to the building of the Kingdom.

Yes, we have failed. We have found it to be an acceptable course of action to procreate and then abandon our progeny. We have concluded that life is about us and subsequently emerged ourselves into a perpetual state of narcissism. We have abandoned our roles as husbands to seek selfish ambitions that feed our egocentricity. We have bought into secular world views such as: ethical relativism, hedonism, nihilism, pantheism, relativism, secular humanism and many others while denying the call of God on our lives.

Listen to what Paul had to say to Timothy:

2 For people will be lovers of self and [utterly] self-centered, lovers of money and aroused by an inordinate [greedy] desire for wealth, proud and arrogant and contemptuous boasters. They will be abusive (blasphemous, scoffing), disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy and profane.
3 [They will be] without natural [human] affection (callous and inhuman), relentless (admitting of no truce or appeasement); [they will be] slanderers (false accusers, troublemakers), intemperate and loose in morals and conduct, uncontrolled and fierce, haters of good.
4 [They will be] treacherous [betrayers], rash, [and] inflated with self-conceit. [They will be] lovers of sensual pleasures and vain amusements more than and rather than lovers of God.
5 For [although] they hold a form of piety (true religion), they deny and reject and are strangers to the power of it [their conduct belies the genuineness of their profession]. Avoid [all] such people [turn away from them]. (2 Tim. 3:2-5, AMP).

How much of what we read here are we seeing in men, not just men, but men that have professed the faith? Paul told timothy that these type of men have a form of Godliness, but they deny its power and are strangers to it. Why are we powerless to impact our environment? We only need to look at our behavior, which is a reflection of the condition of our heart.

I’m challenging men to rise to the moment. The moment demands leaders that will stand for God at all cost. The moment yearns standard bearers that will not compromise in order to please the majority. The moment yearns role models who refuse to ponder at the pool of popularity. The moment is crying out for fathers to instill identity and self-worth in their progeny. The moment is crying out for men who are willing become masters of their God-ordained destinies. The moment is speaking to the souls of women who need their husbands to lead them. Will you rise?

In our Men of the House meeting yesterday, the theme was “Stir Up The Gift”. Men, my desire is to stir up a revolution. A revolution that will see mean returning to their rightful places in the home and community. I envision a revolution that will see men coming out of the maze of mediocrity and ambling into their destiny of greatness and kingdom living. This revolution will create the foundation on which believers will begin to claim and take back ground that the enemy has stolen through deceit and treachery. The power of Christian influence in a secular culture will once again be realized.

It all starts with us. We have to rise above self and live in sacrifice.

Over two-hundred years ago, a simple man of faith determined within himself that he would make a difference. He made this bold statement: “Give me 100 men that fear nothing but God and hate nothing but sin and we will change the world.” This man was John Wesley; the man known as the ‘great revivalist’ and the father of the Methodist Movement.” Wesley understood the power of Men to impact their environment and their designed ability to influence generations. I believe that we are resting on the cusp of the next great revival. Give me 100 committed men and through the power of the Holy Spirit we will change the world.

Who will join me?

Dr. Rick Wallace

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P.S. This started out as the marriage tip of the day and as the spirit moved, this is where it ended up. The marriage tip of the day is an extension of the “When Your House is Not a Home Series”. To read more on the topic simply click the marriage tab.

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