Marriage Tip of the Day:

Marriage is not about you; in truth, it is not about your mate. Marriage is about God. Marriage is a biblical institution designed by God for two primary reasons:

1. To reflect the relationship between God and His people (Christ and the Church). When the marriage is functioning optimally it reflects the unconditional love that Christ has for His bride, the Church, and it reflects the undying loyalty and surrender of the Church to Christ. It reflects total sacrifice and selflessness.

2. To develop Christ like character within us; to conform us to the image of Christ (this is a day by day process that continues until we die and pass into eternal life). The marriage is a place that exposes our areas of weakness, such as selfishness, and the inability to honor commitment. Marriage requires that we endure through inconvenience and discomfort.

*As a secondary function, it sets the proper context for the perpetuation of the human race.

When we view marriage as our greatest service to God, it will make it easier to love and honor our mate, because our relationship will not rest on the frailty of romance, but on the foundation of our faith. I’m not saying that there is no room for romance, but that romance is secondary to the responsibility of marriage. In fact, learning to honor God in your marriage will enhance the romantic experience within your marriage.

When you truly grasp this it will place you in a position in which you will look more to change yourself than your spouse. You will see your fallibility more than their faults. You will recognize that it is not reasonable to expect perfection when you are unable to offer it.

Dr. Rick Wallace

A Part of the “When Your House is Not a Home” series.

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