Archive for September, 2012

View your marriage through the lens of eternity.

As believers, marriage must be viewed from an eternal perspective. No, marriage is not eternal, it was designed for our lives here on earth – However, marriage, when viewed through the perspective of eternal hope empowers us to see beyond momentary difficulties.

When we are able see the eternal perspective we can understand that what we are dealing with is bigger than us, but not bigger than God. We have the chance to glorify God in our marriages more than any other divine institution. The eternal perspective allows us to put aside our selfishness and egocentric mindset in lieu of honoring God by honoring our mate.


Marriage Tip of the Day: With a twist –

This tip of the day is not only to those that are married, but to those desiring to be married, as well as believers in general.

We wonder why things seem so distorted and enigmatic in today’s culture. There are women saying there are no good men and there are men who cannot decide what they should be looking for in a woman.

This happens when we conform to a secular culture in which the only Gospel that we hear consistently is that which is at the top of our playlist. Confusion with self is easily obtained when the media becomes our Bible and the scriptures we read are from secular magazines. God has been removed from the equation.

In the grand design, the Christian is to make an impact, create paradigmatic shifts in the culture that surrounds them, and take ground for the kingdom; however, believers have allowed the secular paradigms of this western culture to infiltrate our minds. We have become selfish and egocentric to the point of corporate narcissism.

Women, there are good men, but they are embedded in the trenches of Christian service, they are not in the clubs or at happy hour. Men, there are good women, but their hearts are hidden in Christ, so that nothing less than a man bearing His character can reach them.

For those of you that are already married, stop believing the cultural lie that it is about you. Stop believing the tenets of hedonism and secular humanism which tell you that you determine what is right and that your ultimate goal in this life is to accomplish happiness. My friend, it is not about you. Your marriage is an institution designed to reveal, reflect and glorify Christ. Your mate is not to be exploited, but honored. Your service is not only to your mate, but to God.

When we begin to stand out as a peculiar people, unwilling to compromise our Christian values, our ability to impact the world around us will once again be recognized. ~ Dr. Rick Wallace

Marriage Tip of the Day:

Men, be men of action. As much as your wife monitors the words you say, she is even more attentive to your actions. I was once told to always say what I mean, but more importantly do what I say. I don’t think there are too many things more disconcerting to a wife than to see her husband being praised by others because of his Godly words and presentation when she knows that it just a facade. Know that anyone that observes her will soon learn the truth because she is a reflection of you. Let your actions reflect a heart of love toward your wives.


Wives, respect your husband’s desire and need to be the “man”. We as men have an innate desire to feel needed, much in the way you desire to feel wanted. Deep inside the innermost recesses of a man is the need to be respected and needed. As the one person that knows your husbands weaknesses it is easy to find yourself complaining and murmuring, subsequently developing and ungrateful spirit. Are we perfect? Far from it. No one knows that better than a man’s wife; however, he grows and becomes more favorable to his design when you accentuate his strengths while helping him strengthen his weaknesses. Your husbands greatness is inextricably bound to your support. ~ Dr. Rick Wallace

Marriage Tip of the Day:

C-O-U-P-L-E : Have you ever noticed that although it takes two to make a couple, the word itself is singular. Marriage requires connectivity in a way that two become inseparably one.

This means that marriage does not allow for selfish indulgence.

Strive to serve the connectivity and unity required in your marriage. Remember, it is not about you. ~ Dr. Rick Wallace


Marriage Tip of the Day:

Marriage is not about you; in truth, it is not about your mate. Marriage is about God. Marriage is a biblical institution designed by God for two primary reasons:

1. To reflect the relationship between God and His people (Christ and the Church). When the marriage is functioning optimally it reflects the unconditional love that Christ has for His bride, the Church, and it reflects the undying loyalty and surrender of the Church to Christ. It reflects total sacrifice and selflessness.

2. To develop Christ like character within us; to conform us to the image of Christ (this is a day by day process that continues until we die and pass into eternal life). The marriage is a place that exposes our areas of weakness, such as selfishness, and the inability to honor commitment. Marriage requires that we endure through inconvenience and discomfort.

*As a secondary function, it sets the proper context for the perpetuation of the human race.

When we view marriage as our greatest service to God, it will make it easier to love and honor our mate, because our relationship will not rest on the frailty of romance, but on the foundation of our faith. I’m not saying that there is no room for romance, but that romance is secondary to the responsibility of marriage. In fact, learning to honor God in your marriage will enhance the romantic experience within your marriage.

When you truly grasp this it will place you in a position in which you will look more to change yourself than your spouse. You will see your fallibility more than their faults. You will recognize that it is not reasonable to expect perfection when you are unable to offer it.

Dr. Rick Wallace

A Part of the “When Your House is Not a Home” series.

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Marriage Tip of the Day

Marriage Tip of the Day:

Husbands, as mature men of God, we must assume our roles of leadership in order to stabilize the home. No matter how much conflict is in your homes at the moment, your wives are looking to you for leadership. When I say lead, I don’t mean dominate. You lead by aligning yourself with God’s will for your life; by honoring your wife. Engage your wife with a love and gentleness, that is expressive of your faith. Let the reflection of Christ be seen by your wife first, because your wife will be the ultimate reflection of you. 1 Corinthians 11:7 says that woman is the glory of man. This means that she is his greatest accomplishment; she is the greatest reflection of who is. I once asked one of my spiritual mentors what he thought of new minister that had just joined the church. He said, “I’m not sure, I have not met his wife yet.” He told me that if you want to judge the character of a man observe the countenance of his wife. Her eyes will reflect his gentleness, and her smile will reflect his love and honor. Men, your wives are observing your every action, looking for confirmation of your love. It is your responsibility to make it easy for her to see.


Wives, your strength and fortitude is exceptional. No one has the power to affirm a man and help him to activate and actualize his potential in the manner and magnitude that his wife does. This also means she has the greatest potential to tear him down. Wives, your husbands, though they boasts a tough exterior, are extremely vulnerable to you. They thrive off of respect, adoration and reverence. They need to be affirmed and respected. When these things are absent, or worse; irreverence, disrespect, and contempt are present, it will cause your husband to shut down, become defensive and behave unloving. Behind every good man is a great woman. Why is she great? She is great because she is aware of his weaknesses, but instead of exploiting them, degrading him, and berating him, she comes along side of him and girds him. In doing this, she gives him the strength and confidence to function is his God-ordained design. Ladies, your husband needs to have the confidence that his home is his refuge. He needs the confidence to be vulnerable without being exploited and deprecated. He needs permission to be imperfect without being judged. I promise you that the benefits will be multitudinous. Proverbs 12:4 says, “An excellent (worthy, noble) wife is the crown of her husband…”. What are you?

Dr. Rick Wallace

Marriage Tip of the Day: A must read –

Husbands: Alright, this one is for you, but it will benefit the both of you and the marriage as a whole. Warning: For most, this will seem extremely awkward at first, as is the case with anything that you are attempting for the first time, Plus, it calls for a certain level of vulnerability, to say the least.

Loving Benediction – A loving benediction can be described as the husband providing a spiritual, emotional, and psychological covering of blessings conveyed through verbal affirmation. In essence, you are to speak the blessings and coverings of God over your wife daily.

Added Element – Physical touch. In addition to speaking blessings and affirmations over your wife, use the element of touch to create a more intense element of intimacy. When I say intimacy, I’m speaking complete unmitigated form of intimacy, not simply physical. As a man in the institution of marriage, you have been gifted to do this.

Example – There is no exact template to follow in performing a loving benediction, but it would go something like this: You would take both of your hands and touch your wife’s head and then you would say something like, “Lord, I pray that you would guard her thoughts against worry, anxiety, fear, and stress. I pray that you fill her mind with thoughts of your love and divine protection. God, use her exceptional mind to orchestrate blessings for others. Let every thought be filled with expectation of your movement in her life and day. Today, through her mind, her vision will be elucidated and expanded and focus will be intensified…”

Then you would move your hands to her ears and say, “Dear God, guard her ears from hearing corrupt and defaming words. Block them from the negativity that could drain her of her passion to serve you. Let her hear the whispers of your love as you serenade her with the subtle words spoken through your creation today…” Then you would move to her nose, lips, on down, until you have covered her from head to toe.

Lastly you would pray that God strengthen and guide you so that you can continue to be the covering that you were designed to be.

Now there are many variations of loving benedictions, but they are all extremely powerful when they are a normal part of the marriage.

As I mentioned earlier, this calls for you to be vulnerable to her response, but in this sense, your vulnerability reveals your strength to her in that you are willing to put her first. It also invites God into the deepest recesses of your marriage and gives Him control.

Remember that your wife and your marriage is God’s greatest conduit for blessings.

I encourage you to try this everyday for at least for a month and see how it impacts your marriage and how that overflows into every other aspect of your life.

Men, there is power in the words you speak to your wife and over her. There is also an immense power in the gentleness of your touch.

God bless, ~ Dr. Rick Wallace



Nothing Too Hard

“Is there anything too hard for Jehovah?” (Gen. 18:14).

Here is God’s loving challenge to you and to me today. He wants us to think of the deepest, highest, worthiest desire and longing of our hearts, something which perhaps was our desire for ourselves or for someone dear to us, yet which has been so long unfulfilled that we have looked upon it as only a lost desire, that which might have been but now cannot be, and so have given up hope of seeing it fulfilled in this life.

That thing, if it is in line with what we know to be His expressed will (as a son to Abraham and Sarah was), God intends to do for us, even if we know that it is of such utter impossibility that we only laugh at the absurdity of anyone’s supposing it could ever now come to pass. That thing God intends to do for us, if we will let Him.

“Is anything too hard for the Lord?” Not when we believe in Him enough to go forward and do His will, and let Him do the impossible for us. Even Abraham and Sarah could have blocked God’s plan if they had continued to disbelieve. The only thing too hard for Jehovah is deliberate, continued disbelief in His love and power, and our final rejection of His plans for us. Nothing is too hard for Jehovah to do for them that trust Him –Messages for the Morning Watch

The question is: Is there anything to hard for God? Certainly not! God is not perplexed by your problems. He is not confounded by your concerns. He does not become discombobulated by the loftiness of your desires.

It is time for believers to stop walking in the mundane and start participating in the miraculous. It is time to raise the expectations you have for your life. God meets each of us at the level of our expectations. It is time to unpack your dreams and activate your visions.

I’m not speaking about wishful thinking here. I am speaking of walking in the will of God and using faith to access God’s very best. God has supernatural blessings locked in escrow for the one that is audacious enough to believe.

God told the unbelieving Israelites in the wilderness: “As you have spoken in my hearing so shall I do to you.” To follow up on the same issue, the writer of Hebrews said that the Israelites did not enter into the promised rest because of unbelief. The land was already promised, but failure to step out on faith and believe God for the spectacular cost an entire generation a trip across the Jordan River into the promised land.

2 For indeed we have had the glad tidings [Gospel of God] proclaimed to us just as truly as they [the Israelites of old did when the good news of deliverance from bondage came to them]; but the message they heard did not benefit them, because it was not mixed with faith (with [c]the leaning of the entire personality on God in absolute trust and confidence in His power, wisdom, and goodness) by those who heard it; [d]neither were they united in faith with the ones [Joshua and Caleb] who heard (did believe). (Heb, 4:2, AMP)

Are you stepping out on the word of God and trusting Him to honor His promises? The woman with the issue of blood stepped out on faith after being told multitudinous times that there was nothing that could be done for her. The blind man believed that he could see. The lame man believed that he could walk and each of them reached into the well of faith to claimed their miracle. They met Jesus at the threshold of the supernatural and what was His response? “According to your faith you have been healed.” When the Centurion came to Christ requesting that his servant be healed, he had enough faith to believe that it was not necessary for Christ to step into his house. He told Christ that if He would just speak the word it would be done. The bible said that Christ marveled at the faith of this man, who was not even a Jew but recognized the messiah and the power of faith. How would it feel to have a faith so powerful and lucid that it makes Christ marvel. That is audacious faith.

When Joshua stopped in the middle of battle and prayed that the sun stand still, I can imagine that God looked down and said, “Now that Joshua just gets it.” Keep in mind that when God told Israel that they would not make it into the promised land, it was Joshua and Caleb that got a pass. They were the only two that believed that they could take the promise land. Joshua had a history of believing God for the impossible and he experienced more than his share of miracles.

The nation of Israel’s first generation missed the promised land because they were afraid of giants. So, what are the giants in your life? Maybe its the opinion of those close to you. Maybe your giants are the memories of your past failures. Maybe its a damaged self-image based on past abuses experienced at the hands of others. Maybe its the fear of the unknown. No matter how huge your giants are, God is not shaken by the size of your issues. God is ready to execute His power on behalf of those that trust in Him without fail.

9 For the eyes of the Lord run to and fro throughout the whole earth, to show Himself strong on behalf of those whose heart is loyal to Him….(2 Chron. 16:9, NKJV)

So, I ask you once again: Is there anything too hard for God?

Worth Saving

No one believed in people more than Jesus did. He saw something in Peter worth developing, in the adulterous woman worth forgiving, and in John worth harnessing.

He saw something in the thief on the cross, and what he saw was worth saving. And in the life of a wild-eyed, bloodthirsty extremist, He saw the apostle of grace. He believed in Saul.

Don’t give up on your Saul. When others write him off, give him another chance. Stay strong. Call him brother. Call her sister. It’s too soon to throw in the towel. Talk to your Saul about Jesus, and pray.

God is at work behind the scenes. And remember this: God never sends you where he hasn’t already been. By the time you reach your Saul, who knows what you’ll find.

God used Saul, who became Paul, to touch the world.

Has God given you a Saul?

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I love reading the work of other men of God and Max Lucado is one of my favorites. His ability to simplify the most powerful of truths is extraordinary. His installment today is no different. Max points to the fact that Jesus sees the potential in the wretched and reaches out to touch that wretchedness with a transforming love that produces the exceptional.

Max appeals to his readers to not give up on their “Saul”. When Christ met Saul on the Damascus road he was the enemy of the church. He was the one who consented to the stoning of Stephen. He was inexorable in persecuting Christians and on his way to do more damage. Christ looked through the wretchedness and validated the potential. Saul (Hebrew name) became Paul (Greek name) and he became one of the greatest champions of the Church.

There are those in your life that have yet to actualize their potential in the Kingdom; don’t cast them away. They need your love. They need your support. They need your encouragement, and they need your prayers. I know that it can be frustrating as you attempt to help birth the new man within your Saul, but when you are tempted to give up, remember that Christ did not give up on you and sent Christian soldiers to usher you into your anointing.

Remember in the book of acts after Paul’s encounter with Christ, the Spirit compelled Ananias to go visit Paul and pray for him. Ananias remembered what Saul had done and wanted no part of it, but the Spirit assured him that there was purpose in Saul and he needed to go pray for him. There is also purpose in the Saul in your life. There is a Paul within them that is struggling to come forth. Don’t write them off. Don’t give up on them. Don’t look down on them. Christ believes they are worth it; who are you to think different. ~ Dr. Rick Wallace

Calling All Men

Marriage Tip of the Day:

Men, I spoke with the women on yesterday and so today I want to speak with you. As always, I do not approach you from a place of condescension, nor do I preach or teach from the platform of perfection. The words that you read and hear come from the transformed heart of a man of God that chose to surrender his cloak of selfishness, pride, and arrogance in exchange for the quiet, yet unwavering, confidence of walking in his anointed purpose.

As men, it is important that we understand that it begins with us. No matter what this secular society attempts to convince you of, you are designed to be leaders, providers, protectors, coverings for your women and so much more. You were molded in the hands of God to influence generations, forge meaningful alliances, and build lasting legacies. However, as a collective we have failed in our responsibility; we have abdicated our God-ordained roles in lieu of self.

You may be asking, what does all of this have to do with marriage? Well, in order to be Godly husbands you must first be a Godly man. A Godly man has surrendered to the will of God and he has committed himself to the building of the Kingdom.

Yes, we have failed. We have found it to be an acceptable course of action to procreate and then abandon our progeny. We have concluded that life is about us and subsequently emerged ourselves into a perpetual state of narcissism. We have abandoned our roles as husbands to seek selfish ambitions that feed our egocentricity. We have bought into secular world views such as: ethical relativism, hedonism, nihilism, pantheism, relativism, secular humanism and many others while denying the call of God on our lives.

Listen to what Paul had to say to Timothy:

2 For people will be lovers of self and [utterly] self-centered, lovers of money and aroused by an inordinate [greedy] desire for wealth, proud and arrogant and contemptuous boasters. They will be abusive (blasphemous, scoffing), disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy and profane.
3 [They will be] without natural [human] affection (callous and inhuman), relentless (admitting of no truce or appeasement); [they will be] slanderers (false accusers, troublemakers), intemperate and loose in morals and conduct, uncontrolled and fierce, haters of good.
4 [They will be] treacherous [betrayers], rash, [and] inflated with self-conceit. [They will be] lovers of sensual pleasures and vain amusements more than and rather than lovers of God.
5 For [although] they hold a form of piety (true religion), they deny and reject and are strangers to the power of it [their conduct belies the genuineness of their profession]. Avoid [all] such people [turn away from them]. (2 Tim. 3:2-5, AMP).

How much of what we read here are we seeing in men, not just men, but men that have professed the faith? Paul told timothy that these type of men have a form of Godliness, but they deny its power and are strangers to it. Why are we powerless to impact our environment? We only need to look at our behavior, which is a reflection of the condition of our heart.

I’m challenging men to rise to the moment. The moment demands leaders that will stand for God at all cost. The moment yearns standard bearers that will not compromise in order to please the majority. The moment yearns role models who refuse to ponder at the pool of popularity. The moment is crying out for fathers to instill identity and self-worth in their progeny. The moment is crying out for men who are willing become masters of their God-ordained destinies. The moment is speaking to the souls of women who need their husbands to lead them. Will you rise?

In our Men of the House meeting yesterday, the theme was “Stir Up The Gift”. Men, my desire is to stir up a revolution. A revolution that will see mean returning to their rightful places in the home and community. I envision a revolution that will see men coming out of the maze of mediocrity and ambling into their destiny of greatness and kingdom living. This revolution will create the foundation on which believers will begin to claim and take back ground that the enemy has stolen through deceit and treachery. The power of Christian influence in a secular culture will once again be realized.

It all starts with us. We have to rise above self and live in sacrifice.

Over two-hundred years ago, a simple man of faith determined within himself that he would make a difference. He made this bold statement: “Give me 100 men that fear nothing but God and hate nothing but sin and we will change the world.” This man was John Wesley; the man known as the ‘great revivalist’ and the father of the Methodist Movement.” Wesley understood the power of Men to impact their environment and their designed ability to influence generations. I believe that we are resting on the cusp of the next great revival. Give me 100 committed men and through the power of the Holy Spirit we will change the world.

Who will join me?

Dr. Rick Wallace

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P.S. This started out as the marriage tip of the day and as the spirit moved, this is where it ended up. The marriage tip of the day is an extension of the “When Your House is Not a Home Series”. To read more on the topic simply click the marriage tab.

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