Archive for February, 2012

In our discussion concerning Love and Respect and its immense impact on the marriage, it may have at times seemed somewhat weighted and this was by design. Men and women are wired differently and so the way that you present things to each species is different. So, when you are dealing with both, especially when dealing with marriage, you confront the issues of the woman first. The reason being that once you begin pointing to the weaknesses and fallibilities of the man (husband), that will be all the woman can focus on and she will miss her culpability in the matter.

Today we will, with great emphasis, examine the command of Ephesians 5:33 for the husband to love his wife. One of the first things I want to address is the belief that, in some way, Ephesians relocates the wife to a position of lesser value by asking her to submit. Ephesians chapter 5 is in no way addressing establishing a premise of greater worth of position in the marriage. What this scriptural passage addresses is the natural tendencies of both, the husband and the wife, to act in a way that is counterproductive in their marriage.

Remember, there is no need to give a command to someone to do something they are already doing. So the command is a response to the husband and wife failing to do something they should be doing. Are there any scriptures in the Bible that support my assertion that wives are to be treated as equals by their husbands? Better yet, are there scriptures that instruct the husband to treat and consider the wife as an equal? The answer is yes.

7In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an[c]intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.] (1 Pet. 3:7, AMP)

After Peter instructs the wives to behave respectfully toward their husbands (verses 1-2); he then instructs the husbands to live in an understanding way toward their wives.

Let’s address a couple of things about this passage to insure we have a clear understanding. Here in verse 7, Peter tells the husbands “ in the same way”, or with the same consideration and effort, be considerate of your wife’s needs. He says that the husband must honor the wife in his actions and words. The same way the wife is to be cautious of her behavior; the husband must do so as well. I want to be lucidly clear in what I am about to say here. When this scripture speaks of the woman as the weaker vessel, it is not speaking in the way of spirituality, psychologically, or anything of the sort. It is simply speaking to the fact that in most every case, the husband will be physically stronger than his wife and must honor her by providing her with physical protection.

The key phrase to touch on our point of equality in the marriage is “but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life”. Joint heirs of God’s grace and favor points to equal partners and sharers of this grace. Husbands are warned that when they do not honor their wives in this way it will negatively impact their prayer life.

Being that scripture does not contradict scripture, we can understand that Ephesians 5:22-33 has nothing to do with ascribing more worth or status to either role within the marriage.

Let us move on to the husband’s command to love his wife. Most wives or women in general look at the commands within this passage as an uneven trade off. Part of it is because they are naturally wired to love, so they don’t see the command for the husband to love as a big deal. Until wives come to understand that their husbands are wired completely different than they are they will always run into the brick wall of disappointment. The second reason why the command for the husband to love his wife seems so inconsequential to the wife is that she does not grasp the magnitude of this love and what it entails. When the husband is called to love the wife, he is called to love the wife in the way Christ loves the Church.

“25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…” (Eph. 5:25, NIV)

The husbands love toward the wife is to be with the same measure of love that Christ loves the Church. When most people read the part that says Christ gave himself, they miss the word “up”.  It says that “Christ gave Himself up” for the Church. Most people automatically assume that this refers to Christ’s sacrificial death, which is implicit in the statement in that everything that Christ did for the Church is required of the husband concerning his wife. However, this statement concerning giving up is dealing with another sacrificial act of the Christ.

The Greek word translated “gave” in English is




From G3844 and G1325; to surrender, that is, yield up, intrust, transmit: – betray, bring forth, cast, commit, deliver (up), give (over, up), hazard, put in prison, recommend.

Strong’s Hebrew and Greek Dictionaries G3860


So then this is not about Christ’s sacrificial death, although it is in view here; it is pointing to Christ relinquishing his authority and deity and submitting to the authority and power of another in order to bring honor and purity to His bride. Do you hear what I am saying here? In order for Christ to bring salvation, honor and purity to his bride (the Church), he had to surrender his authority and submit to the authority of another. In the same way, the husband has to submit to the authority of another to provide for his wife. Whether it is an employer of a client, the husband submits their desire and commands in order to provide for the security and needs of his wife. When you can understand the pride of a man, you will understand that this is a great sacrifice. He is designed with power and authority and he naturally wants to exercise his authority. He wants to lead and direct not be lead or directed; however, in order to lead in the home, he has to be willing to be lead outside of the home.

Kerry Ptacek addresses this issue in great detail: The command that Christian husbands “love” their wives, upon reflection, may seem unnecessary. After all, Christians in general are commanded to love one another, and even their enemies. However, as I have explained elsewhere, love means seeking good for another. Loving a fellow Christian, loving an enemy (one who seeks to harm), and loving non-Christians in general require different actions and responses. The love commanded Christian husbands in this case also would be defined by the object of that love, that is, “your wives.”

A Christian husband should love his wife “just as Christ also loved the church.” But how did Christ love the church? He “gave Himself for her.” Some have thought that Christ’s sacrificial death is in view. However, the Greek verb translated “gave for,” paradidomai, refers to giving someone or something over to the authority or custody of others. Therefore, the part of Christ’s life which is being compared to the role of the husband is when Christ was given over to the authority of others. Christ let Himself be given over by Judas and the Jewish religious leaders to the Gentile authorities. As the Son of God, He was in control of these events, yet as a human, as the Son of Man, He truly gave Himself into their power.

Failure to properly understand the meaning of Christ giving Himself as in this verse leads to a wrong understanding of the first aspect of the husband’s love for his wife: giving himself over to the authority of others, for her sake. The main error in understanding this passage is to think that Christ’s sacrificial death is the example intended for husbands. Under the cover of false heroism too little is actually demanded from the husband. A husband is unlikely to face the prospect of dying for his wife, even if this were the intended sense of our verse. However, all husbands will give themselves over to the authority of others for their wives. They do this especially in going to work, thus being under the power in some sense of either employers or clients during most of their waking hours. Husbands also put aside the tendency of young men not to worry about getting into trouble with the law, so they accept these authorities, for the sake of being there for their wives rather than being in prison or on the run. This may seem like a strange application, but reflect for a moment on the everyday life of young men in those parts of our society in which marriage has broken down.

The love of a Christian husband for his wife begins with giving himself for her. However, even many un-believing husbands love their wives to that extent.

In verse 26 we see the second aspect of love for his wife, which is distinctly Christ-like. The word “that” indicates that what follows is the purpose of Christ giving Himself up for the sake of the church as it applies to the Christian husband.

Here “sanctify” means setting apart someone or something for God’s purposes. God the Father sanctified Christ and sent Him into the world (John 10:3:6). Christ sanctified, set apart, a people for Himself through the gospel. Those given to Him by the Father, the elect, respond to Christ’s words in genuine faith because they are drawn by the Father.

Christ’s word through the Holy Spirit acting on the new heart also cleanses His people from the lives from which they were called. The word “cleanse” refers to the removal of uncleanness which hinders one’s approach to God. For example, the Lord told Peter in a vision that foods previously prohibited under the law had been cleansed and so could be eaten without becoming ceremonially unclean (Acts 10:15; 11:9). Peter when asked to explain his subsequent decision to risk defilement by going to the household of Cornelius the centurion identified the gift of the Holy Spirit to the Gentiles assembled there as God “purifying [cleansing] their hearts by faith” (Acts 15:9).”

You can begin to see the magnitude of what the husband is called to do. As you can see, although the phrase “gave himself up for her” is not directly correlated with the sacrificial death of Christ at Calvary, the statement “as Christ loved the Church” is implicit of it. Women (wives), when your husband says that he will die for you, he means it. Dying for what he believes in is a part of a man’s DNA. This is why when there is some great international incident in which the honor of the US is challenged, young men will come out of the woodwork to offer their lives to defend it. Men relate to honor; even in the streets it is a code of honor. We may not understand it or agree with it, but it exists and it is adhered to with rigid conformity.

28Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.

29For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church,

30Because we are members (parts) of His body.

31For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. (Eph. 278-31, AMP)

As you can see, the husband’s command does not stop at giving himself up or sacrificing his life. The husband is to love the wife in the same way that he loves himself. Again this points to treating her with equality born from a love that is willing to look beyond self and see her needs. He is to “nourish” Greek,




From G1537 and G5142; to rear up to maturity, that is, (generally) to cherish or train: – bring up, nourish.

Strong’s Hebrew and Greek Dictionaries G1625

And “cherish”, Greek,




Probably akin to θάλλω thallō (to warm); to brood, that is, (figuratively) to foster: – cherish.

Strong’s Hebrew and Greek Dictionaries G2282


Men, we are called to put it all on the line. We are to give ourselves up for the sake of honoring, purifying, protecting and providing for our wives. We are to look past our needs and desires and see theirs. To give up our lives is natural and instinctive, but to sacrifice of ourselves while living has the greatest impact and it will draw our wives to us.

There is one last thing I want to point to here men, and that is that there is no conditional clause involved in this passage. What this means is that we are to love our wives unconditionally. Regardless to how irrational she is behaving; not matter how disrespectful she is being, we are to love with every ounce of our being. “As Christ loved the Church” says so much. We must understand that Christ made his greatest sacrifices for us while we were most undeserving of them.

6 For while we were still(L)helpless, (M)at the right time(N)Christ died for the ungodly. 7For one will hardly die for a righteous man; [d]though perhaps for the good man someone would dare even to die. 8 But God(O)demonstrates (P)His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, (Q)Christ died for us. (Rom. 5:6-8, NASB)

So, husbands, your command to love your wife must come from within; an “agape” love that looks through your wife and sees God’s design and plan for you as the head.


May God Bless and keep each of you.


Bishop Rick Wallace

Rick Wallace Ministries


The Potency of Prayer (Revised)

by Rick Wallace original written on Thursday, November 11, 2010 at 1:01pm Revised on Monday, March 21, 2011

The Potency of Prayer


Foundation Scripture: Mark 11:22-24; James 4:2-3


And Jesus, replying, said to them, Have faith in God [constantly].

23Truly I tell you, whoever says to this mountain, Be lifted up and thrown into the sea! and does not doubt at all in his heart but believes that what he says will take place, it will be done for him.

24For this reason I am telling you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe (trust and be confident) that it is granted to you, and you will [get it]. (Mark 11:22-24 AMP)


You are jealous and covet [what others have] and your desires go unfulfilled; [so] you become murderers. [To hate is to murder as far as your hearts are concerned.] You burn with envy and anger and are not able to obtain [the gratification, the contentment, and the happiness that you seek], so you fight and war. You do not have, because you do not ask.

3[Or] you do ask [God for them] and yet fail to receive, because you ask with wrong purpose and evil, selfish motives. Your intention is [when you get what you desire] to spend it in sensual pleasures. (James 4:2-3 AMP)


As we embark on today’s journey into the infallible Word of God, it is my earnest and heartfelt desire that God will reveal Himself in a powerful and succinct way.


It is now that I pray that God illuminate and elucidate His Word that we may be able to grasp in depth its true meaning; that it may touch our hearts in a manner that draws us ever closer to Him. I pray also that God decrease me in every way and increase Himself within me, that the message

is that of God and not of me. I further pray that the hearts of those that receive this message will be anointed with a spirit of lucidity, that they might receive the message in a manner that they are able to apply it to their daily lives, Thereby becoming more powerful and effective in their walk with Christ. This is my prayer. Amen


Today’s text focuses on the subject of prayer; not just prayer in the broad sense of the word, but more specifically, the effectiveness of true prayer.  We are concerned here today with prayer that is efficacious as well as perpetual in its efficacy.


It is my opinion that though prayer is the most powerful weapon in our arsenal, it is the most misused, underused, and misunderstood as well. I will endeavor to bring some lucidity to the function of prayer and its benefits.


What is prayer? Well, before we address this question, let discuss what prayer is not. Prayer is not a method of getting God’s attention, for God is perfectly cognizant of every detail in your life. Through His Divine attribute of omniscience, he knows all there is to know and does not need you to bring any of it to His attention. Prayer is not attempting to convince God to do something on your behalf, for God has already done all that is needed. Hebrews 4:3 tells us that the works were finished before the foundations of the World. This means that all that will ever be needed to function, progress, and prosper in the ethereal journey we call Christianity has already been completed by God in eternity past. Let’s look at this passage of scripture a little closer because there is a wealth of power in the apprehension of this passage.


3For we who have believed (adhered to and trusted in and relied on God) do enter that rest, ]in accordance with His declaration that those [who did not believe] should not enter when He said, As I swore in My wrath, They shall not enter My rest; and this He said although [His] works had been completed and prepared [and waiting for all who would believe] from the foundation of the world.)

4For in a certain place He has said this about the seventh day: And God rested on the seventh day from all His works.

5And [they forfeited their part in it, for] in this [passage] He said, They shall not enter My rest.

We see in verse 3 that the works had most definitely been completed before hand (before the foundations of the world0, but we also see that just because God has provided the inheritance, does not guarantee that all will receive them. There are some requirements that precede the obtainment of the inheritance. In this particular passage of scripture the inheritance in question is “REST”. The writer in Hebrews in comparing the Nation of Israel in the wilderness and the contemporary believer, both having the Gospel preached to them. The Israelites had failed to enter into their rest (the promised land of Canaan) because of unbelief and the disobedience associated with the unbelief.


2For indeed we have had the glad tidings [Gospel of God] proclaimed to us just as truly as they [the Israelites of old did when the good news of deliverance from bondage came to them]; but the message they heard did not benefit them, because it was not mixed with faith (with [c]the leaning of the entire personality on God in absolute trust and confidence in His power, wisdom, and goodness) by those who heard it;[d]neither were they united in faith with the ones [Joshua and Caleb] who heard (did believe). (Heb. 4:2 AMP)


6Seeing then that the promise remains over [from past times] for some to enter that rest, and that those who formerly were given the good news about it and the opportunity, failed to appropriate it and did not enter because of disobedience, Heb. (4:6 AMP)

So it is quite important that we understand that although the inheritance has been prepared for us, it is not automatic. We have to execute our faith, and we do that through by exercising our faith which produces obedience. One more thing to take notice of here is that the writer makes mention of the fact that God rested on the seventh day. This does not have any religious or sacramental implication, but what it speaks of here is the fact that God rested after His work was completed, and this transfers to us in that we shall receive the prepared inheritance after we have completed the work. The work for the Israelites in the wilderness was to believe and trust God,

which would have led to their obedience and their moving into the rest of the promised land. The same applies to the contemporary believer; we must execute faith and move in obedience to receive the inheritance.


Okay then, we have, at least a minimal understanding of what prayer is not, but then what is prayer? How does it work? Why do so many fail in their prayer lives? These are the questions I will endeavor to answer for you today. Unfortunately, too many believers are struggling in the area of prayer, mainly because they don’t have an understanding of its function. It is extremely difficult to operate in any area without some type of understanding of the dynamic process of what you are doing.


In defining prayer, we can say prayer is that function that allows immediate access to the throne room of God. It is open fellowship between the believer and his creator. It involves both, talking and listening; reaching out to God with fervency and passion. It is sharing our concerns and desires. Prayer is the believer’s most effective tool in developing a more intimate and active relationship with God and it opens the portal to power.


Prayer is a communication system designed by God, which in essence, opens up the portal to unlimited resources that through salvation have been placed at our disposal. It would be remiss to take a lethargical approach to our prayer life. Look at what God says concerning prayer in the book of Isaiah:


“It will come to pass that before they call, I will answer; and while they are still speaking, I will hear. (Isa. 65:24 NASB)


God, in eternity past, knew through His omniscience every prayer that every believer would offer up to him. God’s omnipotence gives him the absolute power to provide in advance the answer to everyone of these prayers. Let’s look even deeper into the Word concerning prayer:


I love the LORD because He has heard    my appeal for mercy. (A)

2 Because He has turned His ear to me,    I will call [out to Him] as long as I live. (Psalm 116:1-2 HCSB)


“I will call on Him as long I live.” What a powerful statement. David is saying that he will never cease to call on the Lord. We are told to pray without ceasing, 1 Thessalonians 5:17. With the power and effectiveness linked to prayer, why would anyone be satisfied with a perfunctory and stagnant prayer life? I believe one of the issues with prayer is that most of us for one reason are another, don’t have the productivity we desire from prayer.


In fact, the ineffectiveness of the Christian prayer life has become an ever increasing concern of mine. In analyzing the multitudinous conversations I’ve shared with some of you, I have noticed a lack of fervor, a lack of desire, and a lack of anticipation when it comes to prayer. James 5:16 tells us that the effectual fervent prayers of a righteous man avails much. What this means is that the heartfelt, expectant prayers have potency.


Unfortunately, too many of us have ascribed a sense of mundanity to our prayers. I might even dare to say that some view prayer as a necessary task or duty instead of an expectant privilege. Prayer has become ritualistic; we have confused religion with relationship. Christianity is not religion; it is a relationship that culminates in becoming one with Christ. It is a lived lifestyle, not a sacramental obligation! Religion has crippled us and made us mechanical and unresponsive the voice and promptings of God. We can’t hear God when he speaks because our movements are not properly motivated. We move out of ritualistic habit instead of through the motive love, adoration, and gratitude.


There is no wonder that there is so much concern when it comes to the effectiveness of our prayers. We have not grasped with certainty the true nature of prayer. Prayer has become something we have to do instead of something we yearn to do. True prayer has power. True prayer is never mandated by religious rite or sacrament. True prayer is extended through the free volition of the believer with earnest expectation, because prayer rests on the foundation of the believer’s faith. Prayer is to be enjoyed and passionately pursued instead of conscience driven.


C.H. Spurgeon, the prominent nineteenth century theologian and pastor, once said that when studying the Word of God, we must do three things: look at the text, look at ourselves, and then look above ourselves. With this in mind, let us first look at the text.


Therefore, I say unto you, whatever things you ask when you pray, believe that you receive them and you will have them.” (Mark 11:24 NKJV)

As we began to anatomize this text, it is to our benefit to consider the admonishment of Paul to Timothy:

15Study and be eager and do your utmost to present yourself to God approved (tested by trial), a workman who has no cause to be ashamed, correctly analyzing and accurately dividing [rightly handling and skillfully teaching] the Word of Truth. (2 Timothy 2:15 AMP)


With this scriptural admonishment in mind, let us now examine the text that is before us.

The first thing that we must take note of here is that our prayers require specificity. Christ says, “Whatever things you ask.” There must be something definite and specific for which you are praying. All too often we send up prayers that are nebulous and ambiguous, even to ourselves. These vague prayers lack concentration of specificity; meaning that there is no clear indicator of what we are seeking. We know we are in need of something, but are unclear as to what it is or we are unable to adequately express it. Without the focus of something specific and real for which we are praying, our prayers become empty and fruitless; perfunctory in nature! When praying we speak specifically and clearly what we are seeking. There has to be something clear on which our faith and hope rests.


Next, your prayers must be encapsulated by faith. Christ says, “Believe that you will receive”. A prayer insulated by faith is a prayer of expectation and hope. True faith demands that we see beyond the visible circumstance before us. True faith requisites spiritual insight; this insight comes through the Word of God; and is confirmed by the Holy Spirit. Faith does not consider the facts, because faith, by its very definition transcends fact. Stop looking at the outward circumstances and start believing that the God you serve is bigger than any circumstance you will encounter.


Why are we not walking in power? Why are pinned in by the enemy? Why are we lacking in so many areas? James 4:2-3 sheds light on this question:


‘…You do not have, because you do not ask.

3[Or] you do ask [God for them] and yet fail to receive, because you ask with wrong purpose and evil, selfish motives. Your intention is [when you get what you desire] to spend it in sensual pleasures.” (AMP)

We have failed either to ask our father for what we need or want or we are asking amiss. Asking amiss is simply asking for something with the wrong motive and intentions. So many of us make our wish list out for God with no reverence or consideration given to his will. Knowing and understanding the will of God is of utmost importance.


“So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. (Eph. 5:17 NASB)


“Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].” (Romans 12:2 AMP)


Our prayers have to be in line with the perfect will of God for our lives. No matter how passionate our prayer; not matter how intensely we profess; if we are opposite God’s will, we are praying in vain. Prayer is not a tool used to circumvent the sovereign will of God, but to perpetuate it. We are called in Romans 12:2 not only to know the will of God, but to move away from the thinking and ways of the world. One of the effective weapons of Satan has been his ability to infiltrate the Christian faith with worldly philosophies. I call this a comingling of the Word and the World and it is totally in direct opposition to God’s will.


This carries us into the next phase of our study, “Looking at ourselves”. When our prayer life is unproductive, it calls for introspection, a looking within, and a veracious assessment of where we are and what we are doing. We must search ourselves to find where we have fallen short.


In your personal prayer life, are you praying specific and direct prayers, or are your prayers traditional, rehearsed or repetitive, with no true passion? Are your prayers unaccompanied by faith and anticipation; just left in the air to linger? Have you taken the time to align yourself with the perfect will of God or are you still living by your own rules and standards? Are you living on

your own terms, yet arrogantly expecting God to honor your request? The audacity we display when we place our petitions and supplications at the altar after having shaken our fist in the face of God declaring: “This is my life.”


You may reply by proclaiming that you’ve done no such thing; however, each time you choose to move opposite to His will, any time you choose through your own volition to sin, any time you choose your way in neglect of God’s way you have said to God, “I will live my life as I please.” As a free willed creature, this course of action is of course, your prerogative; however, you must be prepared for the consequences, one of which is a stagnant and ineffective prayer life.

We must first align ourselves with the will of God before we approach His throne. When we examine ourselves, are we in line with God’s Word? Can we say with certainty that we are in unison with today’s scriptural text?


Lastly, let us look above! Let us first look to God and repent, for God has given us a powerful and mighty weapon in prayer and we have allowed it lie dormant and rust away from nonuse. How can we consider ourselves to be soldiers of the cross, when God has given us this matchless and unparalleled power, yet that power lies still, dormant, and untapped?


How Satan must emote with joy knowing that so many of us have failed to utilize this most awesome weapon at our disposal. In reviewing history it is said that the Roman Emperor Constantine saw that on the coins of other emperors before him that their image was struck in an erect posture of triumph. Instead of following suit, he ordered that his image be struck kneeling in prayer, for he said, “This is the way that I have triumphed.” Constantine had an erudite understanding that there is no victory without prayer.

We too, must come to this reality. We cannot prosper without prayer; there is no victory aside of prayer.

When we begin to see our prayer life as a privilege instead of a tedious task, it will open a pathway to victory. When we see prayer as a direct line to our power source, we will be able to face the vicissitudes of life without fear and anxiety. When we see the right to approach the throne of grace as an honor and not a burden, we will unleash the power of God into our lives and circumstances.


Many of us have been awaiting the movement of God in our situations. We have been searching for peace in the midst of the storm. We have been looking for something in which we can anchor our hopes. 2 Chronicles 7:14 lays out the powerful force of prayer as God speaks to Solomon concerning the temple:


“If My people, who are called by My name, shall humble themselves, pray, seek, crave, and require of necessity My face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven, forgive their sin, and heal their land.” (AMP)


Let us turn away from the selfishness of our self-centeredness toward God. Let us humble ourselves in His presence; let us seek his face with an anticipation of what’s to come. Let us know that when we seek Him at the point of His perfect and definite will, He will move mightily on our behalf. We will be able to gain ground in this spiritual walk. We will be able to claim the precious promises of God. We will be able to face the struggles of this life with a newfound hope; with renewed purpose and vigor. Through our prayer life, we will be able to embrace the truth that troubles don’t last always. In prayer we will find that we can do all things through Christ. Through prayer we will find that God’s grace is sufficient for every struggle. In prayer we will find that no weapon formed against us will prosper. Though prayer will find the Lord is mighty to save. Through prayer will find that our weapons are not carnal, but mighty in God to the pulling down of strongholds.


God is waiting to be gracious to you; He desires to do a new thing. He is prepared to touch every situation, every circumstance, every heartache, and every disappointment. God is ready to reach out and bring healing to every aspect of your life.


To those that are suffering in the horrible pit of relational dysfunctionality, God has an answer to your prayer.


To those that are burdened with financial strain, God has an answer to your prayer.


To those that have been struggling with addiction, God has an answer to your prayer.


I invite you to try him. Step out on faith and watch God as he moves through the show up process. We all know what God does when he shows up; He shows out!


Claim your blessing! Walk in triumph! Live in victory! Speak with power! Pray!


May you be richly blessed,


Rick Wallace



We have been moving through the series Love & Respect: When Your House is Not a Home over the last couple of weeks. Using Ephesians 5:33 as the principal scripture of focus, we have examined the command for the husband to love (agape) his wife unconditionally and the wife’s command to unconditionally respect (reverence) her husband. We have a spent a significant amount of time examining some of the principles and points Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs sets forth in His book “Love & Respect” as well as some light shed from my book When Your House is Not a Home.

Today I want to delve even deeper into the term “respect” and its application in Ephesians 5:33. Before I get started let me list today’s disclaimer: Ladies, I know that you feel that it seems that all you hear is what the man needs; I promise that the next segment will about meeting the most deepest of needs of the wife. When you examine this series you will find that there is plenty blame and responsibility to meted out on both ends. Now with that being said, let us move forward.

There is an enormous need for wives and women in general to understand the use of respect as it is used in our scriptural text.

“… and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [[f]that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and [g]that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].” (Eph. 5:33, AMP)

This summation elucidates the term respect with exegetical consideration to the original text in Greek and it accurately conveys the meaning of respect and its application here. Regards, honors, prefers, venerates, esteems, etc. all speak to the deepest need; in fact the deepest value of a man; respect.  When these demonstrative virtues associated with respect are present it calls a man to his natural yearnings to honor, fight on behalf for, and even die for his wife. We here the phrase “I will die for you” so often that it has lost its impact and believability; however, the male species of the human race has over history proven that he will gladly lay down his life for that he honors without reservation. When a man sees honor in something, there is no limitation to what he is willing to do to defend and preserve that honor.

I’m sure that there are quite a few of you out there that are numbers people. As far as you are concerned this is great philosophical theory, but when does it move from the mystical arena of hypothesis and into the pragmatic sphere of empirical evidence. I’m glad you asked. There have been a number of studies on the matter. Dr. Eggerichs points to one study in which four hundred men were given the choice between two different unpleasant experiences. They were asked to choose which one they would prefer to endure.

  1. To be left alone and unloved in the world
  2. To feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone

Seventy-four percent of these men said that if they were forced to choose, they would prefer being alone and unloved rather than be disrespected. Think about this for a moment; these men would rather face isolation with no source of love rather than be in a situation where they were disrespected.  I can tell you right now that this makes no sense to women. This is what the wife (woman) needs to understand; this is not about satisfying your rationale; it’s about satisfying your husband so that he may in turn meet your deepest need. He is not wired the same as you. He is not driven by the same things that drive you. Understanding this will go a long way in turning your house into a home.

Let’s take a look at what one of Dr. Eggerichs clients had to say on the matter.

‘Although a Bible student for most of my life, and a very spiritual person, I had given up, but then I read your statement that says: ‘Though there is more to love than dying for someone, it is a sad day when a man knows that he’d die for his wife because he loves her, yet he hears her continually complain, [‘You don’t love me.’]’ The truth hit me powerfully in my spirit like no other thing has hit me concerning our marriage. I felt the kind of shame one feels when she knows she has done terribly wrong, and she knows not to even ask for forgiveness, and she knows that this one will take a long time to heal, but she knows this one thing she won’t do again. “

Ladies, respect is the key to motivating your husband. He is naturally wired to jump into his man mode when he senses respect. Trust me, men want to serve; they are willing to fight and even die for their wives, but when the wife complains, nags, and points the accusatory finger, she drains her husband of his manliness. The husband then becomes frustrated and shuts down and behaves in a manner that is unloving and uncaring to the wife. Can you see how the cycle is perpetuated?

As long as you are waiting for your husband to see things through your lens, you will always be disappointed and you will feel the need to treat him with contempt. This is fruitless and serves only to lead to more destructive behavior.

Remember what I said in a previous installment: You will catch a lot more flies when you decide to put away the vinegar and pull out the honey. Smile!


Bishop Rick Wallace


I would suggest that each of you get a copy of Dr. Eggerichs’ book Love & Respect. Simply go to the Rick Wallace Ministry’s Resource Center; then scroll down and click on the resource link. Once you have entered the library type “Love & Respect” in the search box and the entire Love & Respect series will be made available to you. Happy Reading



12“Truly, truly, I say to you, he who believes in Me, the works that I do, he will do also; and greater works than these he will do; because I go to the Father.


In a culture in which people are so inclined to extract verses of scripture from their context without consideration of the contextual influence, it is no wonder why the Word of God has lost its influence in the way of power in the way of the Christian faith. To truly grasp and understand the gravity and veracity of the aforementioned verse of scripture, you must examine it within its context.

There are few things more debilitating to the advancement of the Christian life than the misunderstanding and misapplication of scripture. Failure to accurately analyze scripture is the culprit and it will render its victim virtuously helpless.

15Study and be eager and do your utmost to present yourself to God approved (tested by trial), a workman who has no cause to be ashamed, correctly analyzing and accurately dividing [rightly handling and skillfully teaching] the Word of Truth. (2 Tim. 2:15 AMP)

It is important that we not allow traditional presuppositions to enter in and cloud our focus.

John 14:12 is, without question, an extremely powerful statement; in its implication and in its designation.  What is it that Jesus was saying and how does it apply to the contemporary Christian? In order to truly understand this we need to examine the scripture within its contextual influence.

There several things in view here. First through the preceding verses, Christ is establishing his relationship with God the Father and His identity as the Messiah. He is also reiterating, as He does throughout the book of John, the efficacy of prayer. Most importantly at this point, He is also introducing a new element into the equation. We shall examine this most closely very shortly.

There are several elements of verse 12 that are tantamount to understanding the power within it:

  1. “he who believes in Me” – both in verse 12 and 14 He reveals that there is efficacy in prayer through faith.
  2. “the works I do” and “greater works” – Christ reveals that through genuine faith in Him there comes infinite power and results. (However, the third element is an absolute necessity.)
  3. ‘because I go to the Father” – It is not obvious to the superficial reader, but this is the most powerful and revelatory portion of the verse (The Third Element). This is the part I want to center this short study on.

What does “because I go to the Father” mean in this context? We begin to gain a more lucid understanding when we reach verse 16:

“16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever—“

Jesus has now entered into the shadow of the cross and has begun to prepare the disciples for what lies ahead. Over the next several chapters he begins to reveal the fact that he must leave in order to fulfill the ultimate plan of the Father, but in his leaving there will be another; the comforter, the helper, the advocate – The Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit will be a revelator, the initiator and designator of anointed purpose and so much more. Basically, the message was simple: “I have come as a part of the plan of the Father, but my work here is almost done and for the plan to be fully perpetuated, I must leave to make room for another. This is the Holy Spirit and through Him your will do marvelous works; where you lack courage now, you find courage to live within your destiny. Where you are deficient in power, you will find an unlimited source in the way of anointing to fulfill your designed purpose.

Let’s just take a brief look at some of the scriptures that open up this doctrinal truth for a minute.

16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever— 17the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be[c] in you.18 I will not leave you as orphans…26 But the (AR)Helper, the Holy Spirit,(AS)whom the Father will send in My name,(AT)He will teach you all things, and (AU)bring to your remembrance all that I said to you.  (John 14:16-17, 26 NIV)

26But when the Comforter (Counselor, Helper, Advocate, Intercessor, Strengthener, Standby) comes, Whom I will send to you from the Father, the Spirit of Truth Who comes (proceeds) from the Father, He [Himself] will testify regarding Me. (John 15:26 AMP)

12 “I have many more things to say to you, but you cannot bear them now. 13But when He, (R)the Spirit of truth, comes, He will(S)guide you into all the truth; for He will not speak on His own initiative, but whatever He hears, He will speak; and He will disclose to you what is to come.14 He will (T)glorify Me, for He will take of Mine and will disclose it to you. 15(U)All things that the Father has are Mine; therefore I said that He takes of Mine and will disclose it to you. (John 16:12-15 NASB)

8But you shall receive power (ability, efficiency, and might) when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, and you shall be My witnesses in Jerusalem and all Judea and Samaria and to the ends (the very bounds) of the earth. (Acts 1:8 AMP)

As you can see Christ has switch the emphasis from the present to the future. He has pointed to the source of power for every believer; the Holy Spirit. If you have taken notice of scripture you will have noticed that in the earthly ministry of Jesus Christ, there were no miracles performed before the Spirit descended upon Him at His baptism. His power to perform these miracles was a direct result of the transference of power by the Holy Spirit. Jesus, the man, was just as limited in human power and physical strength as we are. Except for the absence of the sin nature, Jesus was human in every aspect. Now as a whole he was the God-man; 100 percent man and 100 percent God joined in hypostatic union forever (without mergence in either essence or identity between the two). Yet, in his earthly ministry, Jesus was 100 percent human and no miracles were accomplished without the power of the Holy Spirit.

What Jesus was doing in chapters 14-16 was informing his followers that He was bequeathing to them the very sphere of power that allowed Him to do all that He had done in His earthly ministry. We can see the massive impact of this in the book of the Acts of the Apostles. In chapter 1 we see Jesus reveal to them that they will receive power after the Holy Spirit has come upon them. We know through consistent Bible Study, that the Apostles accomplished a few things before The Day of Pentecost (that point at which the Holy Spirit came upon them and took up permanent residence within them), but the book of acts reveals how cowards who were hiding behind a locked door and had abandoned Jesus to His enemies weeks before, boldly stepped out with unparalleled power to live out their destinies.

Now there are some that teach that John 14:12 only applies to the original Apostles that were with Christ. First of all, from the measurement of the greatest accomplishments in the way of ministry, the greatest of the Apostles (Paul) was not present to hear this; in fact, he had not yet been converted. Even more revealing in this subject is Christ’s prayer to the Father in Chapter 17.


20Neither for these alone do I pray [it is not for their sake only that I make this request], but also for all those who will ever come to believe in (trust in, cling to, rely on) Me through their word and teaching… (John 17:20, AMP)

This lucidly expresses that this power and oneness that Christ speaks of with the Godhead applies to all that believe. Faith in God and the power of the Holy Spirit is not a respecter of persons. Faith functions for the Prince as well as the Pauper.

So, in summation, the central focus of what Christ is revealing in John 14:12 is that the very power that assisted Him in His earthly ministry was going to be made permanently available to all that would believe in Him as the Messiah.

This power is now available to you who truly believe. The question is: Are you ready to walk in power?


Bishop Rick Wallace





It would seem that with all the evidence supporting the fact that wives need love and husbands need respect, that there would be more people applying these principles to their marriages. It seems that a concept this simple would be easily applied and all would be better for it. The problem is that the very foundation of this principle; men and women being designed and wired differently, creates a divide that is often times quite difficult to narrow.


Once a couple realizes that they have been communicating in code, the ability to efficaciously decipher the code is not easily obtained. Listen to what one of Dr. Eggerich’s clients had to say.


“Thanks for all your suggestions and support. [But] I remain perplexed at the chasm that exists between my perception and reality. When I began this endeavor, I had hope but low expectations, and I was happy to see how quick and positive the effects of “loving” behavior are. It was not difficult to bite my tongue and not “fight back” when I prepared myself for it. I think that while I felt apologetic, I can easily be humble and pretty much take anything that comes my way.


The difficulty begins when I begin to see things return to normal. When I let my guard down, I begin to talk or share and it turns out that underneath things are very volatile and sensitive. When things started to go bad last week, it happened extremely fast and I was surprised to hear how all the same issues remain at the same raw and grim level. I hate hearing that I am her enemy. It is painful to hear her ask, “Why do you want to crush my spirit?” It is extremely difficult not to explode in despair when I hear her say that she doesn’t believe that I love her, or that I will never change, or that she made a mistake and I am not the man she thought I was.


It sure makes it seem that the road is long and possibly fruitless. Amidst getting angry, and blaming her, and the gambit of contorted emotional upheavals, I hear you saying that it is rarely the content  but rather the manner of delivery that causes problems and I cringe at my inability to communicate effectively. Things have gotten so grossly out of shape and I feel ashamed that I’ve been blind and let them get so bad. I also feel a little overwhelmed that all this effort and tolerance will only get us to some point of mediocrity, and that at the slightest perturbation everything will come tumbling down again.”


Dr. Eggerich’s points out the fact that very few men are capable of articulating their feelings as lucidly as this man has. Most men simply become frustrated. The disciples, after hearing Jesus speak of the issues and requirements of marriage said, “…If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.” (Matt. 19:10 NIV)

Jesus had just explained that divorce was not an avenue of expediency in dealing with a troubled marriage and that the violation of the marriage covenant had severe consequences. Make no mistake about it; marriage is an institution that requires true and unwavering commitment.

It is not commitment when its based on circumstances and other transitory variables. The marriage requires your all even when you do not feel like giving it. Marriage demands sacrifice when every fiber of your being is telling you to preserve your own existence


Is Unconditional Respect an Oxymoron?


In a society where almost from birth we are taught that respect is something that is earned, it seems quite the oxymoronic statement to say that the wife is called to unconditional respect. Actually the command is to demonstrate respect, not feel it. The wife is to demonstrate respect and reverence for and toward her husband even when she does not feel as though he deserves it. In the same way the husband is required to demonstrate unconditional love toward his even when he feels that she does not deserve it. Why is this? First of all, what is deserving of love and respect is a relative concept. Each person has their own view as to what it takes to earn their respect and love. This command removes the individual perception out of the equation. Secondly, human emotion is often reactive instead of responsive, which is its true design.  Instead of allowing the emotions to be a responsive mechanism that alerts one to the truth of any given situation, most have learned to allow their emotions dictate action based on a perceived truth. Anger, when it is healthy, is an emotion that alerts one of a wrong of some sort. This is where anger’s job ends. Anger should never be the determining factor in responding to the wrong. This command alleviates the human inclination to withhold what is required when angered or disappointed.

Unconditional respect is diametrically opposed to the very essence of the woman’s design. This is why she is commanded to demonstrate respect toward her husband, because it is unnatural and it makes no sense to her whatsoever. Now the wife understands unconditional love, she has no problem with that at all. It makes sense, since she is wired that way. Now on the other hand, when you say unconditional respect to the wife, it does not register as she attempts to reason with it.

The wife has a mindset that the husband must meet certain criteria in order to receive respect. It seems that wives fail to give serious consideration to Peter’s exhortation to wives to maintain their chaste and respectful behavior, even when their husbands are being disobedient to the word (1 Pet. 3:1-2). Peter’s reasoning is that through her respectful and chaste conduct she will win over her husband and he will begin to live as a Christian husband should. The wife’s chaste, respectful, and affirming behavior has the power to transform her husband. This is diametrically opposed to the wife’s natural response to her husband’s waywardness; to browbeat him into submission. As you can see by the escalating divorce rate, that approach is working like a charm.

This in no way implies that the wife is not to address her husband’s waywardness and it definitely does not imply that she should endorse it. However; the wife can express unconditional respect in the manner in which she engages her husband at all times.

On the other side of the coin, husbands have a great difficulty in grasping the concept of unconditional love; just as the wife with unconditional respect, the husband is not wired to naturally demonstrate this virtue. This is why he is commanded to so. Men are extremely objective in the focus of their love where women are subjective. What does this mean and why is important to understand this? What this means is that the husband’s sense of love is based on who he projects his love upon. He is responsive to the object. If he feels that the object is not deserving of his love it is very difficult for him to demonstrate love toward the object. The wife (woman) is subjective in her love; her love flows from within. She is wired to love even when she is not being loved in return. She is a giver by nature. Unconditional love for the wife is a no brainer; what other kind of love is their?

The point that both the husband and the wife seem to miss is if they carry out their responsibility it actually motivates and encourages their spouse to carry out theirs.

Tomorrow we will focus more on the husbands command to love and we will draw the correlation between his command to love and the power within it to hold his marriage together.

Remember, “Husbands love your wives, and wives respect your husbands (Eph. 5:33)” is a simple concept and command. Getting there; however, requires true commitment.


God bless,


Bishop Rick Wallace

4Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice! 5Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near. 6Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

8Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things. 9The things you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you. (Phil. 4:4-9, NASB)

This is, without question, one of my favorite passages of scripture in the entire Bible. I don’t make that statement lightly. My vocation as a minister and my love for the Word calls for me to spend substantial time studying scripture and the Bible is a powerhouse knowledge. So, when I say that Philippians 4:4-9 is one of my most favorite passages, it is saying a lot. Every scripture is of immense relevance to the believer, but based on each person’s background and personal experiences, certain scriptures will have more impact than others. My life has centered me in a place in which I have a yearning for a peace that is unshakable and this passage speaks to my innermost yearning.

What I would like to focus on predominately is verses 6 and 7. We are told not to be anxious for nothing; other translations rendered it “Don’t worry about anything”. This is not a suggestion, this is a command. This is something that is required of the believer. Why are we commanded not to be anxious about anything? The simple answer here is that anxiety is the result of a failure in the area of faith. Anxiety is an illness that kills, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, and even physically. Faith is the predominate requisite in living the Christian lifestyle. Anxiety and faith cannot co-exist.

I know that many of you are saying that it is much easier said than done. Trust me; I know how hard it is not to acknowledge the grim circumstances that lie before us at times. There are times when the implacable forces that move against us are so tumultuous that we become overwhelmed by them. This feeling of being overwhelmed by the moment is what opens the door to anxiety. The key is not to ignore the circumstance; it is in understanding that your circumstances are not the determining factor of your life’s destiny; God is. God has already written your life’s story in which you have obtained the victory. This is where faith comes in. Faith enables us to look beyond the moment and see the outcome even though the outcome has not yet physically manifested itself.

This is what is great about God, he does not simply provide a demand; he supplies the means and the knowledge to execute the command. Right after telling us to never be anxious Paul immediately follows with the formula for carrying out the command.

“but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God” (verse 6b)

Paul says “in everything” (leaving no room for exceptions) by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.” In other words, your problem is not your problem it belongs to God. We are to submit our concerns to God and allow Him to work them out to our benefit. This calls for trust. Paul tells us that when we are able to have a heart of thanksgiving that is centered in a life of prayer, there will be a peace that comes over us that is beyond our limited perspicacity. This peace bends all rationale and defies all reason. This peace acknowledges the circumstances, but thrives despite them. Paul reveals that it is this peace that will guard our hearts and minds (the essence of our soul) in Christ Jesus.

It is easy in the English translation to lose the word “guard” in the mix of all the information surrounding it. It seems almost inconsequential in the weight of the entire verse; however, when you examine the passage carefully, “guard’ is the responsive action word in the passage. When we take the appropriate action (thankfully pray) God’s peace responds with its own action equal to the faith revealed in our action. So then the word translated “guard” has great significance in this passage because it is God’s response to our faith in a matter of need. Let’s take a look at this verb more carefully.

The Greek word that is translated “guard” is;




From a compound of G4253 and G3708; to be a watcher in advance, that is, to mount guard as a sentinel (post spies at gates); figuratively to hem in, protect: – keep (with a garrison). Compare G5083.

Strong’s Hebrew and Greek Dictionaries  G5432

Phroureo  is a compound of  G4253 “pro” a primary preposition; “fore”, i.e. “front of”, “prior” (figuratively superior) “to” in compounds it retains the same meaning  and G3708 “horao”; properly to stare at, i.e. (by implication) to discern clearly (physically or mentally); by extension to attend to; by Hebrew influence, to experience; in the passive, to appear; to be a watcher in advance, i.e. to mount guard as a sentinel (post spies at the gate); figuratively, to hem in and protect; to garrison; (Phil. 4:7; Gal.. 3:23; 1 Pet. 1:5) (This is a military term in the Greek)


So then, you can see that this word “guard” is quite essential in this passage. It is the guarding of the heart and mind that guarantees the perpetuation of this peace. Allow me to elucidate; when you pray and trust God for what you pray for, God’s peace enters in and stands guard against the very things that come in and attempt to rob you of your peace and sanity. Paul’s use of this military term points to the fact that the mind is a battlefield and must be guarded and protected from invasion.

There are 10 things I would like to bring into focus here.

  1. Permit the peace of God to garrison or keep your heart and mind through Christ.
  2. Renounce all worry and by prayer, supplication and thanksgiving submit your request unto God. (v. 6; Jas. 4:7)
  3. Carry the right thoughts (v. 8; 2 Tim. 2:15-17)
  4. Keep your mind fixed on God (Isa. 26:3)
  5. Use the weapons of warfare that are available to you as a Christian warrior. (2 Cor. 10-3-6)
  6. Put on the whole armor of God. (Eph. 6:10-18)
  7. Have faith in God. (Matt. 6:25-34; 7:7-11; 17:20; 21:22; Mk. 11:22-24)
  8. Live and walk in the spirit. (Gal. 5:16-26; Rom. 6:14-23; 8:1-13)
  9. Do not cast away you confidence. (Heb. 3:6, 12-14; 6:11-12; 10:19-13, 35-39)
  10. Cast all care upon God. (1 Pet. 5:7)

Paul continues by pointing to the fact that the centrality of focus here is the mind.

8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. (Phil. 4;8-9 NIV)

Paul provides 6 things to center our minds on in order to maintain this transcendent peace:

  1. True things – all that is in harmony with eternal truth in creation and revelation. (2 Tim. 2:15; 3:16-17).
  2. Honest things – all that is decent, honorable, and Christian. Greek “semnos”.
  3. Just things – all that is in harmony with justice and righteousness (Rom. 3:24-31; 8:4; 2 Pet. 1:4-10)
  4. Pure things – all that is chaste and holy for body and soul. (Rom. 12:1-2; 1 Cor. 3:16-17;)
  5. Lovely things – all that is pleasing and tends to bless others. (1 Cor. 13:4-8; Gal. 5:22-23)
  6. Things of good report – all that is in harmony with the best public good; virtuous and praiseworthy. (Rom. 13:1-10;2 Pet. 1:4-10)

So, we are told not to allow anxiety and worry to rule our lives and then given a specific formula that will allow and empower us to carry out this command. I encourage you to offer up your concerns to God. Peter tells us that we should cast our cares upon Him because he cares for us. When we cast our care upon Him in faith His peace consumes and stands guard over us so that the thoughts that produce anxiety are repelled.

Whatever you are facing right now put it in God’s hands. Let God do what only He can do in your situation. He is offering you peace in the midst of the storm. Notice I said peace in the midst of the storm, not circumvention of the storm. Your blessing and break through is wrought out in the storm. Your promotion and elevation process is carried out in the storm. Your deepest and most powerful connection to God is experienced in the storm. Notice in the story in which the disciples woke Jesus because of the storm; the moment when Jesus spoke to the winds and the waves and said “peace be still”; that Jesus was at peace during the storm, in fact, He was asleep. Jesus arose and rebuked the storm and then he rebuked the disciples:

39 He got up, rebuked the wind and said to the waves,“Quiet! Be still!” Then the wind died down and it was completely calm.

40 He said to his disciples,“Why are you so afraid? Do you still have no faith?” (Mk.4:39-40)

Why did he rebuke them? He rebuked them because their faith should have produced a transcendent peace; not in the absence of the storm, but despite of it. Don’t look to circumvent life’s trials, instead learn to thrive in the midst of them. Trials and tribulations provide the greatest canvas for God to paint His masterpieces of power and promotion in the life of the believer.


May you be bless,


Bishop Rick Wallace

History dictates revival; God’s plan mandates it. If we were to journey through the annals of history, whether secular of biblical, we would find the unequivocal signs of revival. The development of the Jewish nation through the seed of Abraham was revival. The delivery out of slavery and oppression at the hands of the Egyptians was revival. The release of the Jews from Babylonian captivity and the empowerment to rebuild the Temple was a revival. Make no mistake about it, the day of Pentecost and its subsequent events was a revival. Martin Luther’s protestant reformation was a revival. John Wesley’s Methodist movement was a revival. The civil rights movement of the 20th Century was a revival.

The time in which we now live cries out and yearns for a revival. The inner-city ghettos, the hollowed and damp cells of our prisons, the single parent homes, and the street gangs of this nation are screaming “we need a revival”. There are fatherless young children in need of assurance that there is a brighter tomorrow on the horizon. It is impossible to view this world of ours through a clear lens and not see and feel the undercurrent of despair. We are in need of hope, but where do we find this hope we so desperately and frenetically seek? The answer is Christ. The revival is initiated in Christ.

Who will be the vessels through whom God showers down his awesome favor through revival? God has revealed to me that he will use the downcast and rejected. The impoverished of the inner-city, the denigrated and forgotten man behind bars, the socially rejected; these are the men and women  God is going to use to reveal His love to a world that is struggling to find its identity and purpose. Be sure of this, we are about to witness the greatest revival known to man.

“Then he said to me, “Son of man, these bones are the whole house of Israel. They indeed say, ‘ Our bones are dry, our hope is lost, and we ourselves are cut off! Therefore prophesy and say to them, ‘Thus says the Lord God: “Behold O My people, I will open up your graves and cause you to come up from your graves…Then you shall know that I am the Lord… I will put my spirit in you and you shall live… (Ezek. 37:11-14)

God is once again saying, “preach to my people; tell them, “No More Dry Bones!” Tell them I can and I will deliver. Tell them I am about to open up the graves of their circumstances and breathe the life of a brighter tomorrow into their circumstances.

For this reason, I founded 100 Men of Purpose. John Wesley once said, “Give me 100 men who fear nothing but God and hate nothing but sin and we will change the world.” Wesley and his men went on to do just that, they ignited the Methodist movement. I’m searching for 100 men as dedicated as Wesley; men that understand the meaning of no surrender; no retreat. I also founded Life Solutions 21, an organization dedicated to addressing the enigmatic issues that confront believers on a daily basis. Life Solutions 21 is based on 21 principles of Christian Living:

  1. God Above All Else
  2. God is in Control (understanding that you are never out of God reach and sovereignty)
  3. Constant renewal of the mind and thought process
  4. Daily intake, digestion, metabolism, and inculcation of Bible doctrine
  5. Always look to give more than you receive
  6. Wholeness of life (not being satisfied with a deficiency in any area)
  7. Living in true abundance (closely related to and is the by-product of #6)
  8. Guard your tongue and understand its power (Speak life into your circumstance and others)
  9. Maintain a heart of gratitude (opens the gateway to God’s favor and abundance)
  10. Maintaining the Temple (our bodies must be respected and properly maintained)
  11. Teach others as your learn (everyone has the responsibility to lift those around them.
  12. Build up rather than tear down (The responsibility of the believer is the edification of fellow believers. The root of the Greek word translated “edify” means to build up in the manner that you would build a house.)
  13. Forgive (Forgiveness is one of the greatest ways to reclaim stolen power)
  14. Live in your purpose
  15. Honor God in your walk
  16. Allow Praise to become a daily practice
  17. Work in harmony with other believers
  18. Accept Correction
  19. Take notice of the simple things you once took for granted
  20. Develop a sense of order (through the power of the Holy Spirit take control of your life)
  21. No surrender; no retreat (God finds not pleasure in those that draw back… Heb. 10:38)


Through Life Solutions 21 I launched Master Fitness 21 to help believers focus on proper maintenance of the temple. It is still in the developmental stages but you can take advantage of it by clicking Master Fitness 21. In the works is Financial Fitness 21, which will focus on helping believers gain control over their financial situations which is a part of Kingdom responsibilities.


“For I know the thoughts I have toward you, says the Lord, thought of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (Jer. 29:11)


God wants to reach into your personal situation and transform your existence. He is waiting to be gracious to you (Isa. 30:18). All of the enigmatic issues that have you bogged down in the midst of your journey will be addressed through the power of the Holy Spirit. It is time to live within the sphere of power that has been afforded to every believer. To those that are ready to rise above your circumstances, welcome aboard.


God bless,


Rick Wallace

Love and Respect Scriptural Interpolation


The following scriptural passage falls in line with what we have been studying from Ephesians Chapter 5:22-33 and addresses the need in the marriage for Love (unconditionally from the husband toward the wife) and respect (unconditionally from the wife toward the husband). I will not elaborate in detail at this point, just take it in and prepare for the next installment.


1 Peter 3

Amplified Bible (AMP)

1 Peter 3


1IN LIKE manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands [subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them, and adapt yourselves to them], so that even if any do not obey the Word [of God], they may be won over not by discussion but by the [godly] lives of their wives,

2When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your [a] reverence [for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him–to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is, to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband].


3Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] [b] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes;


4But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God.


5For it was thus that the pious women of old who hoped in God were [accustomed] to beautify themselves and were submissive to their husbands [adapting themselves to them as themselves secondary and dependent upon them].


6It was thus that Sarah obeyed Abraham [following his guidance and acknowledging his headship over her by] calling him lord (master, leader, authority). And you are now her true daughters if you do right and let nothing terrify you [not giving way to hysterical fears or letting anxieties unnerve you].


7In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an [c]intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God’s unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off. [Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.]


In this lies the resolution to the vast majority of marital issues, either directly or indirectly. I would encourage you to study this passage in depth along with Eph. 5:22-33 and I also suggest that you use the NASB, NIV, for accurate and direct translative expression and the AMP for its lucidity in expressive expansion. In other words it expands the idea to give you the closest meaning to what was intended by the author of the passage based on a number of variables. This is necessary because the English language is not as rich in vocabulary or expressive in context as the ancient Greek. The AMP uses a number of hermeneutic approaches to present the intended message without ambiguity.

~ Bishop Rick Wallace



This morning I posted the following excerpt on my facebook page. I did it primarily because it is in direct correlation with what we are dealing with in building a loving and respectful marriage.

February 15, 2012

“Words Can Captivate Your Man
(or any number of people)
Sharon Jaynes

Today’s Truth

A good wife is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds (Proverbs 31:10, The Message).

Friend to Friend

OK, today is a devo for our married GiGs, but you single gals are not off the hook. Words are so powerful. We can use them to build people up or tear people down, to encourage or discourage, to speak life or to speak death. If you are not married, think of a friend or family member looking at your picture and musing about the impact you’ve had on their life. What would run through their mind? Now, you can read this devotion and put someone else in this buddy’s seat.

Today, I want you to use your imagination. I want you to imagine your husband sitting at his desk or at a quiet place at work. Imagine him lost in thought about how blessed he is to have you as his wife. He holds your framed picture in his hand and moisture begins to pool in his eyes. He is captivated.

All the riches in the world are not to be compared with the jewel I have in this woman,he muses. What did I ever do to deserve her? God has given me such a gift. All our married life, she has done nothing but love me, bring out the best in me, and look out for my best interest. All the guys at the office are envious of our relationship. I see the way their eyes soften when she comes by just to tell me hello, grabs my hand when we’re at office functions, or pecks me on the cheek for no apparent reason. I notice that her loving words to me are in stark contrast to some of the cutting remarks of other wives…and so do my friends. I look around at the accomplishments of my life, but having this woman as my wife is my greatest. Oh sure, there are many women out there in the world who are accomplishing great feats, but my wife…well, she surpasses them all.

What a picture! That’s the woman I want to be, don’t you? And amazingly my words can be the determining factor as to whether this scenario is possible or not. Did you know that there are words your husband longs to hear? Did you know that there are words we should never say? Let me give you a few from my book, The Power of a Woman’s Words.

Words Never to Say to Your Husband

1. I told you so.
2. You just don’t think.
3. It’s all your fault.
4. What’s wrong with you?
5. I can’t do anything to please you.
6. All you care about is yourself.
7. You never listen to me.
8. I don’t know why I put up with you.
9. What do you want now?
10. How many times do I have to tell you?

Words Your Husband Longs to Hear

1. I’ve been thinking about you all day.
2. What can I do for you today?
3. How can I pray for you today?
4. The best part of my day is when you come home.
5. You are one of God’s most precious gifts to me.
6. You are so wonderful.
7. You look so handsome today.
8. I don’t feel complete without you.
9. I will always love you.
10. I trust your decisions.

Today, be aware of the words you say to your husband. Do they build him up or tear him down? Do they make him glad he came home, or wish he hadn’t?”

Shortly afterward I received a message from a person very close to me that took issue with it. Her stance was that a man needs to hear the truth. That he should want an honest assessment if he is truly trying to improve and live his life as God desires. (Sharon Jaynes – Girlfriend to Girlfriend)


What you will find below is a more amplified version of my response to this particular point of view.


What I posted is a direct repost of one the most respected Christian Counselors in the Country from her New York best seller and it is in direct correlation with Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, one of the nation’s top Christian marriage counselors. Eggerichs points to the fact that the man is called to a greater responsibility than the woman, but emphasizes the importance and power of the woman’s words. I posted the post this morning because it was sent this morning and it correlates with the series that I have been teaching. All of this is based on Ephesians Chapter 5:22-33 with emphasis being placed on verse 33 which is the summation verse.

33 To sum up, each one of you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband. (Eph. 5:33, HCSB)

The husband needs respect and the wife needs love!

I mentioned something several days ago that was brought to my attention a long time ago and was reinforced when I reread Dr. Eggerich’s book; you can be right in “fact” and wrong in “delivery” and you are wrong because there was no efficacy in the effort. The truth was spoken but nothing positive was accomplished. This arrogant approach says that because I am right I can present the fact in any manner I find befitting. The truth is that a woman must understand her power to build up or to tear down. The truth is like any other sword, it must be wielded with precision or it will become destructive and counterproductive. “I am right” is the battle mantra in marriages as they crumble into the dust of irreconcilability.

Because of the man’s makeup, the woman is designed to impact him optimally. This means she has the greatest potential to influence his self-image. Her most powerful tools are her words and her intimacy. It is funny that the wife’s most powerful tools are also her most powerful weapons, even when she does not mean for them to be (there is nothing more powerful in affirming a man than his wife’s affirming words and her sexual intimacy toward him). It can also be said there is nothing more devastating to a man than his wife’s negative words toward him or her coldness is the bedroom). There are certain things a man yearns, and the wife in the right frame of mind understands this and seeks to service her husband’s needs in this area. Now these needs are totally different than hers, so she has to truly understand her role and responsibility in the marriage. The average wife will look at her husband and see an insensitive jerk that just doesn’t get it. The average man will look at his wife and see a woman that doesn’t appreciate or respect him. The key is to understand why this is and to make the necessary adjustments.

What the summation of Ephesians 5:22-33 reveals is that men and women are distinctly different and their needs and desires are different. The husband is commanded to love his wife; the Greek word for love Paul uses here is not “Eros”; romantic and physical love driven by different forms of attraction, but “agape”; unconditional love (a subjective love not dependent upon the actions of the object). Now the man is called to perform this act of love whether or not his wife performs her responsibility to respect. In other words, the husband’s command does not provide a conditional clause. He cannot decide that his wife is being unreasonable and not “agape her”. He is required to “agape’ her regardless. Let’s look at the text for just a minute.

 33However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [[f]that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and [g]that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. (Ephesians 5:33 AMP)

The husband is to love the wife as himself; what this does at the very least is call the husband to bring the consideration of his wife’s needs and desires to a place that is equivalent to his. He is to agape her. This love calls for sacrifice, even to the point of death.

Now the wife is to respect her husband. The amplified version spells out what this entails because a woman’s view of respect and a man’s is quite different.

As I stated earlier that are no conditional clauses that allow either spouse the leeway to abandon their mandates based on the failure of the other. In fact, Paul, the author of Ephesians, writes in another one of his epistles that even when the husband in not saved, the wife performing her responsibilities as unto the Lord, can win the purity of her husband, meaning that the husband can be brought into compliance. It works both ways, but for a number of reasons, the wife has a greater power of drawing her husband.

The bottom line is this: Husbands yearn respect while wives yearn love. A wife monitors every movement of her husband in an attempt to determine whether his actions indicate that he loves her. A husband hangs on every word of his wife searching for an indication that she respects him.

A side note: The woman did not receive the command to “agape” her husband for one major reason: She is designed to “agape”; it’s a part of her DNA. If she has not been corrupted by social influence and negative experience, the woman will give sacrificially without prompting.


The evidence has mounted over the years. Husband and wife interaction creates a cycle (either negative or positive). When the wife doesn’t feel loved she reacts in a disrespectful way and the husband perceiving disrespect will react in an unloving way and the cycle has begun. Now the opposite is also true. When the wife feels loved and the husband feels respected the positive cycle of edification is established.

So, though it may seem right to say what is on your mind as long as you assess it to be true it is not the biblical formula for a successful marriage. In fact, you only need to survey the increasing number of people who were “right” based on the facts, but are now alone because they did not understand their power to lift or to tear down. This does not mean that a spouse does not need honest evaluations (It simply says that what seems to be the natural and direct way of expressing this assessment for the woman has no positive impact on the man). Those “Words Never to Say to Your Husband” that you read in the above post are at the top of the list of destructive phrases in a marriage, based on the contributions and insight of thousands of marriage therapist and counselors. What has been found is that when those terms are used the opposite of the desired affect is achieved. Whereas when the “Words Your Husband Longs to Hear” phrases are used, the negative qualities of your husband, without prompting slowly dissipate.

The thing is the woman’s natural inclination is to tell it like it TIS; which never gets results. Because of the woman’s God-given insight, chances that she will be right on many occasions are relatively high. The questions then arises, is her number one priority to be right (at all cost) or to develop a prosperous and lasting marriage?

Many women will say that they feel that they should not have to coddle their men’s sensitive egos.  The thing is it may seem silly or even stupid to you, but a man’s psyche is fragile. He has physical strength (which God endowed him with), but his mental strength is lacking. This is why God empowered the woman to give him strength in that area. It is a balance that God created to maintain the humility of his creation, but we have taken it and corrupted it.

The thing is when a woman realizes that she will get very little in the way of positive results by pointing out the flaws of her man, but get unbelievable results by letting him know that she has a respect for him that is from God. His natural response is going to be to meet the worthiness of that respect. He is designed that way. In turn, when a man understands that when he treats his wife in a loving way even when it seems she doesn’t deserve it, she will respond in a way that reflects respect and reverence.


My grandmother always told me you will catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. You may not feel like the flies are worth the sugar, but if you want the flies you will use the sugar, or you can keep trying to catch the flies with the vinegar and live with the results.

It’s up to you!


Bishop Rick Wallace

One of the greatest issues within marriage is communication. The problem is that men and women communicate in different codes. Because men and women see things through different lenses, it is difficult to for them to decipher the messages that are being sent by their partner.


So God created mankind in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them. (Gen. 1:27 NIV)


This verse establishes that in creating humanity, God created two distinctly different beings. It is imperative to understand that making the effort to understand the differences of our mates will have great impact in turning your house into a home. God designed women and men to function distinctively different with a particular purpose in mind for each. When they come together in harmony (a place where differences actually sync with one another to form a synergistic union) there is nothing more beautiful. Yet, when then harmony is non-existent the chaos that ensues is immensely devastating and demoralizing.


As we have already established, the wife’s greatest need in the marriage is LOVE, and the husband’s greatest need in the marriage is RESPECT.
“Angry exchanges are caused when the husband appears careless, depriving his wife of love, and when the wife reacts with criticism and complaints that are vehement, depriving the husband of respect. And why should she be respectful? The stupid oaf doesn’t deserve her respect!” ~ Dr. Emerson Eggerichs


What Dr. Eggerichs is explaining is that there is a vicious cycle that erupts from the failure to decipher the codes that our mate is sending. The fact is men and we women do see things differently and failure to realize this and apply it to understanding when we are dealing with our mates leads to a breakdown in communication.


What was surprising to me when I first began this study was the fact that couples in the Church are divorcing at a rate equal to or greater than those who are non-believers.


“…there is madness in their hearts while they live…” (Eccl. 9:3)


The reason that I say there is madness is that with the divorce rate being that high, especially among believers there has to be a level of insanity. What we have is a bunch of adults that find themselves in situations because of a particular type of behavior (selfishness) and yet they continue in the same manner. The problem is our natural proclivity to see things our way inhibits our desire and ability to see things through the eyes of our mate.


Books on the topic of marriage are not in lack; there are books on marital communication, finance in the home, becoming a better husband, becoming a better wife and so much more. The problem is those in the church believe they have the truth; however, they are not functioning under the entire truth. They have not committed themselves to obtaining the entire truth. I would even say that believers have adapted secular paradigms concerning marriage which has only served to exacerbate the matter. The cosmic world views that have infiltrated the church has wreaked immeasurable havoc on the Christian marriage.


Communicating in Code


Earlier, I mentioned that men and women communicate in code. It is a part of our individual and distinct design. Dr. Eggerichs gives a great example of how differently men and women see the same thing. Let’s take a look at his example:


“Let’s see how this plays out at home as a couple is getting dressed to start the day.


She says, “I have nothing to wear.” (She means she has nothing new.)

He says, “I have nothing to wear.” (He means he has nothing clean)


There is no serious danger of conflict here, but the “nothing to wear” line illustrates that we all see things out of our own needs and perceptions.


Just the other day, I was working on my computer and Sarah had the radio on in the next room. It was some kind of talk show and just loud enough to derail my train of thought. I yelled to her, ‘Are you listening to that?’ There was no reply. I yelled again, ‘Are you listening to that?’ Still no answer. Finally, I yelled louder, ‘Are you listening to the radio?!’ She yelled back, I have been trying to listen, but you keep interrupting!’ This created a two-minute exchange that almost turned into a serious argument. It seems Sarah was irritated with me because she hadn’t even noticed the radio – she was busy with something else. But she thought I had called to her because there was something on this talk show that I really wanted her to hear. Of course, my real intention was that she turn off the radio if she wasn’t really listening to it. So I was irritated with her because she hadn’t understood me.


Finally, it came to me that I hadn’t been very clear about what I had meant, and yelling at her three times wasn’t too loving either. So I apologized. I cite this little misunderstanding to point out that things like this can escalate, particularly if husband and wife are a bit upset with one another about something that happened the day before (or possibly just a few minute ago). In other cases, couples may be experiencing long-term tension, which can escalate when fed by a simple miscommunication.”


Because we tend to base the way we engage others based on past experiences, especially with that particular person; it is easy to get to a point where the wife begins to anticipate being treated in an unloving manner. In the same way, the husband begins to expect to be treated with disrespect and these presupposed dispositions impact the way things are perceived by our spouses.



The Issue is Never the Issue


When listening to and counseling married couples there is one thing most psychologist agree on; the issue almost always isn’t the issue. In other words, what you believe you are fighting about isn’t really the reason. In its simplest form, it boils down to the husband feeling disrespected and the wife is feeling unloved and the subsequent actions initiate the downward spiral of disintegrating communication.


The problem is most often, we have a tendency to focus on our own needs and desires and we fail to give the proper attention to our mate’s.


The manner in which the husband and wife see things differently can be demonstrated by the very foundational scriptural passage that we are using for this series.


However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [[f]that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and [g]that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly]. (Eph. 5:33 AMP)


When the woman see this she will focus on the love the man is required to give her and will view her mandates as conditional upon the man executing his responsibilities. She may even feel that what is required of her is a little much based on the fact that she has to deal with this childish behavior all the time.


In the same way, when the man sees this he sees that he is owed respect. He focuses on what is required of his wife because it fulfills his most primal need; respect.


The problem is that it is not our responsibility in marriage to seek our own needs, but to serve the needs of our mate. This is not our natural inclination by any means, but marriage calls for sacrifice and consideration leading to understanding.


I want to reexamine this passage yet again. It calls for a man to love (agape – unconditionally, even to the point of laying down his life for hers) his wife as he loves himself. This very statement calls for sacrifice. It immediately puts the wife at the very minimum on the same level of consideration from her husband as he has for himself. He is not to consider his own needs, but he is to set aside his needs and seek that which is best for his wife.


As for the wife; I love the way the Amplified version of the Bible lends to the lucidity of this specific passage.


“…and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband [[f]that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and [g]that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].”


The first thing that most women will notice is that the man has one short line and they, for all intensive purposes have a paragraph. Why is this? It is actually fairly simple. The husbands mandate is to love (agape) his wife is self-explanatory. The use of “agape’ by Paul instead of several other words for love that he could have used, says it all. Agape does not have to be expounded upon, by its very definition, it express complete denial of self and total commitment to the one being loved. However, respect needs clarity because a woman’s need for respect is different than a man’s and her view of it is different. This manner of respect is great. This is not a casual respect as in the sense of not being offensive. No, this is a respect that reflects reverence in manner that is above all others except God.


]that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates, and esteems him; and [g]that she defers to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly].


It calls for the wife to regard, honor him (in action and representation), prefer him (in her demeanor and speech), esteem him (hold him in high regard, Sarah called Abraham Lord), praise him and more. When a wife is able to do this, she energizes and empowers her husband to be what he was designed to be. This is not a call for the wife to show weakness or servility, but respect of the husband’s position.


Some of you may be asking, especially the men; Well why aren’t the women called to love (agape) their husbands? The answer is that God created women to naturally love unconditionally. There is no need to mandate that the women express unconditional love. This form of love is proclivous to the woman.


So, it is quite simple, yet unfortunately, still difficult. It is simple to see the issue here, but human nature makes it extremely difficult to correct the problem. Fortunately for us we have the Holy Spirit through which we are able to do all that is required of us. It all starts with understanding that it is not about us. The divine institution of marriage was established by God to perpetuate the human race, maintain filial order and to demonstrate the love of Christ to the world. When we read the Bible we find that the most analogous representation of Christ’s love for the Church is the husband’s love for his wife. Consequently, the wife’s reverence for husband is reflective of the Church’s reverence for Christ.


As we move forward I look forward to opening so much more up to you in the way of understanding. Remember knowledge is transformed into power as it is properly applied.



Be blessed.


Bishop Rick Wallace

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